5 Signs That He is Boyfriend Material15 Apr 2019, by Love, Personal Development, Relationships, Soulmate in
One question I have been asked a lot is whether or not the newest and greatest guy is truly boyfriend material. Will it last? Will he treat you in a manner you deserve or will he turn out like all the other Joe Schmoes who whoosh in, sweep you off your feet and then disappear without a trace. This happens all too often and is hurtful, disrespectful to you and ultimately, a waste of your valuable time.
It’s not easy to find the right connection. It’s not easy to feel an intense bond with someone and have it run the distance. There is no formula for it, no guaranteed process you can follow to make it happen, but there are a few signs out there to help you determine whether or not he’s a keeper. It’s your heart on the table after all.
Sign 1: He Keeps His Word
There will always be times when something comes up and a commitment can’t be met, but for the most part, he should keep his word. If he says he’s going to do something, then he needs to follow through. Commitments without action are meaningless, but commitments that are followed through upon say a lot about someone’s integrity. This behavior should last throughout the relationship, not only at the beginning.
Sign 2: He’s a Good Listener
Have you ever experienced that guy? The one who seems lost in his own world every time you try to communicate? The one that nods, half smiles, and pretends they are paying attention when all they are really doing is thinking about themselves? I believe we all have. Communication is critical and is a two way street. You should feel comfortable sharing with him and you should feel as if you are always being heard.
Sign 3: He Doesn’t Try to Change You
All too often you will run into the guy who tries to turn you into some version of him rather than respecting your individuality and understanding that differences between people are often what strengthens bonds. These egomaniacs and borderline narcissists will be quick to point out everything they see in you that differs from them. Run away! Quickly!
Remember, you are who you are and that is the person he was attracted to in the first place. While it’s normal for two people to grow together as time moves forward, it doesn’t mean you should ever feel required to change who you are at the core to please someone else.
Sign 4: He Has Got It Together
“You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do” – Carl Jung
In order for you to receive the attention and affection you deserve, it’s important that the potential boyfriend has is together. He should have his life on track and be heading down a positive road.
Don’t allow yourself to run into another rescue situation where you spend all of your time parenting him. It’s very easy to feel attracted to these types. Don’t get me wrong, there will be times where both of you lean on each other, but when you run into a true rescue only situation, it’s a guaranteed recipe for heartbreak.
Sign 5: He Respects Your Need for Space
Space is needed in all healthy relationships. You should feel as if you are allowed to have your own space when you need it and he should feel the same. Both of you should also respect each other when you have plans that don’t involve each other. You should maintain your own hobbies and he should too. This helps to make things even better when you are together. What matters most is that neither of you ever feel smothered and unable to do the things you want to do.
While the above are just a few examples, it’s important to remember that you always know what is best for you. You know what you deserve and you know how you should be treated. While every connection will experience its ups and downs, there should always be more positive than negative.
If you are uncertain about someone you have been dating or are interested in, reach out directly to any one of our talented love psychics. They can look deep into his energy and uncover the relationship’s path as well as his intentions.