We all know how it feels when another person – especially someone we say we love – does something we don’t like. What happens to the love in a moment like that? It flies out the window as we resist what the other person is doing. They are bringing up reactions in us that make us uncomfortable, and so we push them away, criticize them, and blame them for the way we feel. It’s a common response, but when we do that, we’re wasting an opportunity for our own transformation.